I am a banker and live in Abuja, though I was transferred to Abuja 3 months ago, before now, I was living in Port Harcourt. I understand this is an anonymous platform, so I feel I can talk about my situation here. pardon me for not introducing myself nor revealing any personal details, I don’t want to lose my job.
I was in a 5-year relationship in Port Harcourt before I was transferred to Abuja. Presently, I am the head of my team here and so it is easy to meet people, since I am in the marketing department.
My boyfriend and I broke up, because he kept giving excuses why he can’t settle down now and not ready for marriage. when my transfer came, I saw it as an opportunity to swim new waters and hope for a better man, so I broke up with him, because I don’t want to carry any extra baggage to Abuja in the form of relationship.
I met my present boyfriend the very Month I moved here, I took my time for the entire month and started dating him the following month, we are not very intimate yet, but we both know we care about each other, and I like the fact that he is working, responsible and doing well for himself at such age.
we went to the cinema last weekend, and I uploaded the photos on my Instagram page, that was the beginning of my troubles, I didn’t know he is friends with my ex, and they were even roommates in the University.
Now, my ex-boyfriend is telling him to stay away from me, that I am a prostitute and a liar. He has said a lot to my present boyfriend that I don’t even know what to do.
My boyfriend is presently telling me we need to rethink this relationship and asked for some time. I got his message this morning via WhatsApp, and I feel so depressed, because I really like him, I only held back sex with him because I feel it is too early to start doing that with him and also want to understand him to a reasonable extent.
What do I do now, I honestly feel like taking revenge on my ex for causing me this much pain, after spending 5 worthless years with him.
Please what do I do now? I am really confused and depressed.
Why depressed for someone who doesn’t trust you, he is supposed to believe you not your ex boyfriend. If he is judging you because of mere hearsay that is his loss. Relax a better man will come your way.
Don’t sweat the small stuff dear. Tell your current boyfriend not to listen to your ex. If he (your current boyfriend) is the man for you, he will do what you say. Period.
In my opinion, I think you should let sleeping dogs lie, by letting go of your current boyfriend please.
Do you know why? A man who truly wants and care about your, would trust you first, before a friend or school mate he has not seen in years. This particular guy, is not a man yet, he is not matured enough to handle a family not to mention marriage.
Please, I would advice you to flee before you get deeply involved with him. Don’t worry, your real man will come and definitely, he is not the one you are brooding over now.